In Korea, there has been a hot debate on whether girls and guys can be friends or not, and what things you can do and cannot do with your male/female friend if you have a lover. For example, would you let your lover go to the movies with his female (her male) friend? ????
This is how Koreans call their male/female friends.
남자 male 사람 human 친구 friend = 남사친 (pronounced nam-sa-chin) = A male friend
여자 female 사람 human 친구 friend = 여사친 (pronounced yeo-sa-chin) = A female friend
Those who believe there’s male/female friendship don’t really care about what their lover do with other friends.
But those who believe there’s no such thing as male/female friendship usually cut out their own relationship with opposite-sex friends and also want their lover to have minimum relationship with their opposite-sex friends.
They believe in this interesting theory :
There’s no such thing as opposite-sex friendship. At least one of them has a crush on the other.
And if both of them have a crush on each other, their “love” is usually blindfolded with a concept of “friendship” and their relationship will quickly get romantic as soon as one of them takes courage to express his/her feelings.
It really depends on whether a person has a lover or not.
If you’re single, there’s no need to worry about how intimate you can get with your opposite-sex friends. But if you’re taken, your partner might worry or pay attention to your opposite-sex friendships. (Or you might care about your partners’ friendships.????)
There was a poll about “To what extent are you okay with your lover to be intimate with opposite-sex friends?”
This explains that some don’t even like opposite-sex friends simply being “friends.” Things like hugging, crossing arms, holding hands, texting everyday with your opposite-sex friends might cause trouble in your romantic relationship.
But of course, there are many good opposite-sex friendships too!
Feel free to share your opinion with us. ????